Dr Wendy’s Blog

Helpful and informative posts to add to the lives of my readers

Dr Wendy’s Blog

Through Dr Wendy’s blog I aim to provide helpful and informative posts that add to the personal and professional lives of my readers.

With over 30 years as a health professional (clinical, education and research), I have a strong interest in better education and training for all people working with people. I’m passionate about things like Professional Boundaries, Nursing, Training, Professional Supervision, links between childhood trauma and mental illness and workplace bullying. I’ve been training in Psychodrama for over 20 years  – some might say a life-long learning – and I’m committed to using experiential learning in the work I do with individuals and groups.

I also have the great honour of being invited to regularly present and facilitate at national & international conferences on the topics of boundaries, bullying and mental health in the workplace.

I hope that you’ll take a few moments to see what I have to say, and I encourage you to respond with your comments. I’d love to hear your opinions and insights on the topics I discuss here, to have you a part of this conversation…

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Podcast Special Guest Appearances

Posted by on 2 Sep, 2020 in Blog, Boundaries, Featured, Mental Health, self-care, Supervision | Comments Off on Podcast Special Guest Appearances

Podcast Special Guest Appearances

Special Guest Appearances: Dr Wendy McIntosh 

Nursing and Midwifery Education is a platform put together by Nicole Nash-Arnold (of Nurse Manage HQ) and Sue Walker (of Nurses for Nurses Network and Nursing CPD Institute) to give nurses the information, resources and stories that they need to live their best nursing life. Nursing + Midwifery Emporium was born for exactly that reason. Sue and Nic’s vision was to create a place where nurses could access a variety of non-clinical information about their careers and the lifestyle of being a nurse.

Wendy has appeared on the NMEmporium Podcast twice in 2020, and we thought it might be helpful for our podcast listeners to include links here for those appearances, so without further ado:

Episode #21: Dr Wendy McIntosh on Nursing Professional Boundaries

Episode #21: Dr Wendy McIntosh on Nursing Professional Boundaries

Episode #26: Wendy McIntosh on Clinical Supervision

Episode #26: Wendy McIntosh on Clinical Supervision

Dr Wendy McIntosh PhD shares insights and strategies about developing and maintaining professional boundaries. Professional Boundaries are not limited to the clinical or therapeutic arena. If you are in a professional role – a nurse, a teacher, support worker, doctor, police officer, a prison officer, a council worker, healthcare worker, or hairdresser. If you are a volunteer or belong to a theatre group, a choir, a sports club, there will be something in this podcast for you and the relationships you have with others. Setting boundaries in our life is necessary for our emotional, psychological, spiritual and physical well being. Setting boundaries is about our safety.

Since 2005 Wendy has been developing her knowledge and interest in the area of professional boundaries. Wendy delivers workshops on boundaries in Australia (where she now lives) and Internationally when invited to do so. She is continually integrating learning and insights she gains from the work she does in professional boundaries. Wendy comes from a nursing, and predominately psychiatric nursing, background.

Wendy consistently receives feedback on her passion, knowledge, and creativity as a presenter and facilitator. Enjoy exploring boundaries in these podcast episodes as Wendy takes you on your own reflective journey on your professional boundaries, and clinical supervision.

 

Reason to Thrive

Posted by on 29 Aug, 2020 in Blog, Featured, Leadership, self-care | Comments Off on Reason to Thrive

Reason to Thrive

Reason to Thrive – Equine Assisted Learning Programs

Debb @ Davaar – August 2020

Nearly 2 years ago I had the fortune of meeting the lovely ladies from Reason To Thrive.  Their organisation offers  “… equine Assisted Learning programs for skills development and personal growth.  Equine Assisted Learning is a ‘hands-on’ innovative approach to learning where the participant learns through interaction with a horse.”Ribbon Cutting Reason to Thrive

A fantastic initiative that supports at-risk children and youth, offers a special needs school program and women’s empowerment for survivors of domestic violence.  Visit their website …   https://www.reasontothrive.org/ 

I was asked to represent Davaar Consultancy at the opening of their Thrift & Thrive Shop at Kenmore.  A great turnout with a local councilman and staff present, cutting the ribbon.  Coffee & beautiful cakes … it was very enjoyable and I felt honoured to be there.   Dr. Wendy, on behalf of Davaar, supports their cause, so when the lovely ladies were thinking about team Reason to Thrive Who's Whobuilding workshops we were the first ‘guinea pigs’ to be contacted.

We needed to organise 6 people.  Easy enough.  We were then presented with three options and Dr. Wendy with her wonderful sense of humour and adventure chose ‘Brainiac’ !!  We’re in trouble already.

Reason to Thrive Following ordersSo, what was Brainiac all about?  We were given our briefing and put in teams of three and allotted a horse per team.  In hindsight, these magnificent creatures were the true ‘brains’ of the team!  And I don’t mean that lightly.  As a team of three, we linked arms.

Reason to Thrive Braniac exercise

The person in the middle was the ‘brains’ (obviously me – tongue in cheek); the person on the left was the ‘left arm’ and the person on the right ‘right arm’.  One of those ‘arms’ held the horse’s reigns.  Around the arena, there were ‘tasks’ to achieve.  For example, there was a set of upstanding poles.  ‘Brains’ had to instruct her ‘hands’ to direct them around the poles, or put a halter on our horse.  Oh and did I mention, that only the ‘Brains’ could talk – neither the ‘hands’ NOR the horse were allowed to speak.

Reason to Thrive Prep

Reason to Thrive On task

There was also a row of logs that the ‘Brains’ had to instruct her team to walk over, and a piece of cloth in a semi-circle.  ‘Brain’s had to instruct her ‘hands’ to gently guide the horse to stand on that cloth.  That one was a doozy – and, thankfully, in our case, our might steed knew exactly WHAT to do.  He was either frustrated with our pathetic attempts or he was getting bored and wanted to get back to some feed as soon as possible.  ‘Enough of this silliness human person! There is some real food to be had over yonder.’

Reason to Thrive BreifingIt’s all about teamwork.

We finished by brushing down our exhausted steeds, thanking them for their patience and reassembling for a debrief … not to mention some yummy wraps & cake.

A fabulous day of learning was had by all.Reason to Thrive

Tenderness is about you looking after you

Posted by on 11 Aug, 2020 in Boundaries | Comments Off on Tenderness is about you looking after you

Tenderness is about you looking after you

Tenderness is about you looking after you

This is my first blog in a long time. Such a long time in fact that my PA Debb took it upon herself to write a blog to get the blog energy back into Davaar. How fantastic is that and what a funny blog she has written, I trust you enjoyed it and smiled as much as I did… Starting out with Davaar

The theme of tenderness was created in me a couple of years ago during a supervision session with a group of supervisees. As one of the group was describing work she had done with a client, I experienced a great softening and tenderness in her whole being. When I shared what I experienced with her and the group, the supervisee moved deeper into tenderness with herself. Her body softened further, her body relaxed more. As she got more tender with herself, I became aware that I experienced increased tenderness for her. It was such a touching and vivid few minutes for me. As I kept reflecting on the interaction between us and the experience for both of us, I wondered about the power of tenderness and the absence of acknowledging tenderness in our language today.

Trying to locate information about tenderness in the literature has been difficult. I am going to be bold and state there is a dearth of information about tenderness in contemporary literature. Perhaps, that in itself is a clue: if we are not writing about tenderness, not talking about tenderness, not exploring tenderness with each other, and in groups is it possible, then, that tenderness does not exist?

Of course, tenderness exists I hear you say. Ok, so reflect further – how often do you use the term in your work with clients, or thinking about and interacting with colleagues, or expressing tenderness with loved ones? Do a quick check-in now and respond to the following:

1. When you hear or think about the word tenderness – what presents for you (colour, image, name, person etc……allow your creativity to create)

2. In what ways do you demonstrate tenderness with a client?

3. What factors trigger tenderness in you for another person?

I have been running workshops on the theme of ‘Tenderness – Looking After You’ for a couple of years and from those workshops, it is clear that participants struggle with the notion of tenderness for themselves. I concur with them that tenderness may not be an easy idea, concept, experience to grasp. Then I notice an interaction from a participant, I experience their tone of voice, a shift in their body position and I say to the person – “what’s happening for you right now?”, they pause, they respond, I propose “this is you being tender with you right now” and their body softens more. “There you go,” I say “deeper into your own tenderness”. From interactions such as this, a whole new world of understanding about what tenderness means and how tenderness is experienced by that person (and the group) opens up. Is it possible that tenderness is simply about being with self or being with another in a gentle tender way?

The first known use of the word ‘tenderness’ was in the 14th century. According to the Cambridge Dictionary tenderness is defined as “the quality of being gentle, loving or kind”. Other descriptions of tenderness that I have found in the literature include:

  • a feeling of concern, gentle affection or warmth
  • a pain that is felt when the area is touched
  • a tenancy to express warm compassionate feelings
  • concern for the welfare of others.

I think of the tenderness, the softening that can occur for adults and other children around a newborn baby. I smile in tenderness when I experience an infant taking those first tottering steps and falling down. I sit in tenderness with clients when they share their heartfelt and heart wrenching experiences of workplace bullying, of losing themselves in traumatising and cruel systemic processes. I experience tenderness when clients share the moment they knew that they had made a significant positive impact on the life of a patient they provided care to.

Imagine if individually we took more notice of tenderness. Notice how we experience tenderness, notice how we share tenderness. As we notice, we collect all those tenderness moments in a glass jar. As we see the jar fill up in and with tenderness, we can be reminded even in those harshest, darkest moments and days, that as humans we have an enormous capacity for tenderness. Enormous capacity to be tender with ourselves and with others….. now that is just heart-warming….. and tender.

Follow my blogs on… https://davaar.com.au/dr-wendys-blog/

If you are interested in attending our tenderness workshops visit our Events calendar or email debb@davaar.com.au or wendy@davaar.com.au for more information.

We’ve scheduled a 3 module workshop via Zoom.  

Dates/times: Wednesday 16th September, Wednesday 23rd September, Wednesday 30th September Bio Wendy McIntosh PhD

Starting out with Davaar

Posted by on 15 Jul, 2020 in Blog, Featured | Comments Off on Starting out with Davaar

Starting out with Davaar

Starting out with Davaar

Debb @ Davaar – July 2020

I’ve been with Dr. Wendy for a couple of years now. Before Dr. W, I was admin in the education system. Two years later, employment nursing courses went online, so staff were made redundant. Dr. W offered me a job with Davaar, and as the saying goes, the rest is history!

Debb Quinn

So what’s it like working for Dr. Wendy and Davaar Consultancy? Well, it’s been the best thing to have happened to me since … oh gosh, ok well, I can’t remember that far back but it’s been oh-so-good! Don’t get me wrong, I’m still ‘a work in progress’ when it comes to the Scottish accent and terminology – or as I call it ‘Wendy-Speak’ – but I hope I am slowly ‘getting there’. With my hand on my heart, there’s never been a dull moment I can tell you. She is certainly one very resilient lady! (a workshop participant called her a ‘pocket rocket’) – and with ‘proven consistency’, as per our Instagram posts. In between podcasts, workshops (face to face), online training, Rotary (Past President), supervising, one-on-one sessions, being hassled by me – she still makes time for her own mental health by throwing in a game of golf!

Dr. Wendy McIntosh portrait

Starting backwards – Covid-19 has certainly brought a ‘what are we going to do?’ question to the drawing board. Here I was panicking, very concerned about my own welfare, at the same time trying to think outside the box. Well, surprise surprise, Dr. Wendy was already outside that box … waiting for me to catch up! She and IT guru Nikki had already set up online training and published the first 6 podcast episodes ‘Professional Boundaries‘ – something to relax and listen to while self-isolating, and/ or working from home. Add into that organised mix came ‘You Supporting You … Your Sentence, Your Story, Your Week’ … and gently stir. We had such a positive response that it is now on our website for one and all to download.

Check out the booklet for yourself … it’s really cool … and yes, I am blowing my own horn! I loved designing thisbooklet especially using Japanese influenced illustrations from Pixabay (thank you Pixabay).

Download the You Supporting You Workbook

Click on the cover to learn more.

One of our customers loved the book so much she gave us this testimonial to use:
“The best part for me is the title ‘YOU Supporting YOU during this time’. I am a strong advocate of people helping themselves. I often talk about the three-prong approach to recovery with my clients: doctors and medicine, counselling therapies, and most important ‘what can you do to help yourself??’ This fits perfectly in with that model!”

Without carrying on too much, that’s what I love about this diverse ‘job’ (dare I call it a ‘job’?) – the love of design – webinar PowerPoints, training flyers, workbooks, documents, booklets, and everything in between – like I said ‘never a dull moment’ with this talented woman.

Dr. Wendy also completed a very successful VIRTUAL workshop, this July month, with Linguistpd in the UK via Zoom. Over the past couple of years, Wendy would take the opportunity to catch up with friends and relatives when these workshops were scheduled; however, this time around the workshop was facilitated virtually. Will it work? Will anyone turn up? Will it be successful? Well, yes indeed, the feedback was very positive and humbling. Another exciting chapter to add to the memoir!

I will fill you in on more amazing feats blitzed by Dr. W in the next month’s blog. Stay well, stay safe.

 

You Supporting You – Workbook to Download

Posted by on 9 Jul, 2020 in Blog, Featured, Mental Health | Comments Off on You Supporting You – Workbook to Download

You Supporting You – Workbook to Download

You Supporting You – Your Sentence, Your story, Your week

It is our great pleasure here at Davaar to provide this resource for your own musings, a reflective writing process packaged in a free downloadable workbook.

Download the You Supporting You Workbook

Click the cover to download your copy of our PDF workbook.

Creating this resource grew out of the Covid-19 pandemic that has had such a significant impact on our world and peoples of the world.  What began as a social media exercise has developed into a soothing six-week daily personal reflection process.

The aim of this reflective process is to assist you as the writer to connect or perhaps reconnect with your strengths, your dreams or your purpose in life. To support more inspiration and deeper reflections we have included the mediums of images, music, stories and art to arouse the creative genius in each of us. (more…)

SPECIAL EPISODE – Boundaries and COVID-19

Posted by on 6 Apr, 2020 in Boundaries, Featured, Mental Health, Podcast, self-care | 0 comments

SPECIAL EPISODE – Boundaries and COVID-19

SPECIAL EPISODE – Boundaries and COVID-19

It’s April 2020 and the world is in the grip of a global pandemic. During this trying time, each of us needs help navigating this crisis. In this special episode Dr. Wendy McIntosh PhD, from Davaar Consultancy, discusses tapping into your support networks, the pressures of being at work during the COVID-19 pandemic, and the immense challenges of maintaining safe Professional Boundaries when we’re all operating under additional pressures

Wendy also talks about the stresses of working from home, teaches us how to use Box Breathing to get some relief, and how to use The Third Space model to use the shift between work and home to find a little peace, even when work and home are in the same location. 

New Professional Boundaries Podcast

Use the links above to subscribe in your favourite Podcast app, or click the play button to listen. Visit our Podcast page to see all episodes. Stay tuned for the Season Two, coming soon. (more…)

Ep.6 Strategies to Set and Repair Boundaries

Posted by on 19 Feb, 2020 in Boundaries, Podcast | 0 comments

Ep.6 Strategies to Set and Repair Boundaries

Episode 6 – Strategies to Set and to Repair Professional Boundaries

New Professional Boundaries Podcast

In Episode 6, Dr. Wendy McIntosh PhD, from Davaar Consultancy, shares a Professional Boundaries scenario set in a child care centre. Although the lure of becoming friendly with the parents of the children who are cared for each day is attractive, it can be a pattern that can be tricky to reverse.

Wendy describes steps to remedy this awkward situation and some hints on ways to help refocus the attention back on the customer and their child, rather than the staff member’s family.  Also discussed are Strategies for establishing better boundaries in collegial relationships, and how important it is that the front office staff also exhibit a unified boundaries front.

This is the final episode of Season One,  and rounds up our first season of the Professional Boundaries Podcast. Use the links above to subscribe, or click the play button to listen. Get access to all episodes here.  Stay tuned for the Season Two, coming soon. (more…)

Sponsoring entry to ACN Nurses Forum August, 2020

Posted by on 10 Jan, 2020 in Blog, Featured | Comments Off on Sponsoring entry to ACN Nurses Forum August, 2020

Sponsoring entry to ACN Nurses Forum August, 2020

We’re getting ready for the 2020 International Year of the Nurse & MidwifeNNF2019Logo

And to celebrate it, Davaar Consultancy is excited to sponsor the registration of a nurse or midwife to attend the ACN Nurses Forum in Canberra on 19th – 21st  August 2020.

Simply tell us who is your Nursing or Midwifery Role Model (currently or historically).

  • What is it about the person or their work that you most admire?
  • If you were to meet them today what question you would ask them?
  • If they were to ask you – how do you envisage your professional role in 50 years? How would you respond to them?
Your essay piece must be between 350-500 words, and entries close on 30th April 2020. The winner will be announced on the 12th May 2020 – International Nurses Day.
Get writing now, and mail your entry to debb@davaar.com.au

Ep.5 Reasons for Transgressions

Posted by on 21 Dec, 2019 in Boundaries, Featured, Podcast, self-care | 0 comments

Ep.5 Reasons for Transgressions

Episode 5 – Reasons for Transgressions

New Professional Boundaries Podcast

In Episode 5, Dr Wendy McIntosh PhD, from Davaar Consultancy recounts a Professional Boundaries scenario about a Police officer in a small town and the various events that led to his transgressions.

You’ll hear how, in hindsight, it was clear that unresolved issues from his own history left him at risk of this particular boundary violation. 

Learn about how taking a candid look at our own history might give us hints about Red Flags warning us of likely vulnerabilities before problems transpire.

Wendy also discusses Consistency or the lack of it, a particularly powerful Red Flag that usually deserves our immediate attention.

This is the fifth part of a dialogue that be will be continued in the following episodes. Use the links above to subscribe, or click the play button to listen. (more…)

Ep.4 Those Red Flags

Posted by on 15 Dec, 2019 in Boundaries, Featured, Podcast, self-care | 0 comments

Ep.4 Those Red Flags

Episode 4 – Those Red Flags – What are they and do I really want to listen to them?

New Professional Boundaries Podcast

In Episode 4, Dr Wendy McIntosh PhD, from Davaar Consultancy shares another potential Professional boundary transgression scenario, the red flags that were apparent, and how responding to those red flags in a different way could have prevented a challenging situation for a male teacher.

In this episode, Dr Wendy discusses what the alerts that we call Red Flags might look and feel like, in more detail and some clever ways to respond to them. Red Flags Poster

This is the fourth part of a dialogue that be will be continued in the following episodes. Use the links above to subscribe, or click the play button to listen. (more…)

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